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A Vice and a Friendship Lost
By Carol Gibson
Since the seventies, when recreational drugs were popular, the marketing of pills for every mood is on television. You can have your vice and stay out of jail, too. Recently, a friendship broke up, as it had slowly atrophied into something that wasn’t true. Both partners of this couple had gotten so layered up with prescription meds I had to wonder. Who would I be talking to? Is it the person or the pill? After these guests stormed out ending a weeklong visit at my Florida home, I had to take an introspective look at the situation and exactly what caused the demise of our long-term friendship. An indelible imagery of a previously gentle woman screaming in the driveway of my home, in my nice neighborhood, remains stuck in the forefront of mind. After a week of driving these guests to coastline beaches, serving the best meals possible; in short, I laid out a red carpet for them only to have the last remembrance of a dwindling friendship come to this. The earlier part of the friendship – the part that I should cherish - had no influence of mind-altering drugs; nothing more than sharing a glass or two of wine from time to time. Life presented difficulties for these people, and they turned to drugs, and it became a vice. The drugs were all prescribed, so this must have been a good way to deal with their problems, right? One just tends to take the validity of drug usage for granted when it’s a doctor who administers drugs. Yet, somewhere in time, I began to see the medicine cabinets full of meds as a vice. Insulated from any kind of pain, physical or psychic, both of this couple had gradually become insensitive dullards. High upon their insulated mountains, they condescended to me with remarks about how my furniture didn’t match. Or, in the kitchen, I got supervision on how to cook for them as if I would be too stupid to perform these tasks I’ve done for years on end. The woman friend, who showered me with “words of wisdom,” did nothing to assist in the kitchen, other than giving her “sage” advice. Her favorite place to eat was the lanai, to where she stole away with her plate of food, like some kind of an animal protecting its acquired prey. What happened to the cultured and refined woman I once knew? Along with the great big “F – you” that I got when they were leaving, came the realization that these people obviously aren’t the people with whom I had first become friends. I don’t know who they are. Formerly, gracious people - all I can see is the zombie like vestige; a walking symbol of a vice that overtook their personalities and their lives, and sadly, brought the death of a life long friendship.
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Thanks for relating your experience. A similar thing happened between myself and one of my best friends. It hurt so much to stay away but she wasn't the person I knew after she started down the path to addiction. Keep the hope! My friend has turned her life around and has actively pursued a renewal of our friendship. I am so grateful to God for that! It can and does happen.
Thank you for sharing this heart wrenching story, Carol.
We can only hope to control what is in our own minds. What our friends do to us is on them.
Keep up the good work.
Best to you.
Frederick
Another experience sent to teach you about life. Don't become what you don't like about others.
What a sad ending. I had a similar experience with one of my friends. I believe it is becoming a more prevalent problem now than ever before. I can only repeat my dear mum's words to me. "Don't let other's actions change you. Be true to yourself."
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